My husband wouldnt share the bills and chores fairly for a long time. However, I found a way to make him regret his selfishness.
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When my spouse, Peter, 40, and I, Shannon, 35, argued over who should pay for takeaway, it highlighted our financial inequalities. I earn more than Peter, which makes him less concerned about our finances.
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He insisted that as the wife, my role was to cook. Since I couldnt always do that, he thought I should pay for our meals, despite our shared expenses on groceries and rent.
My recent promotion as the head of a department increased my responsibilities, including late work nights, unlike Peter, who finishes his job at 4:00 p.m.
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After a days work, I return home by 5:30 p.m., finding Peter already relaxed, watching videos or playing games. He occasionally does chores, like cleaning the bathroom once a month or doing dishes, but not without complaining.
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A few months ago, Peter, under the influence of a few drinks, made a bold claim in front of friends that he was “investing all his money in my [expletive].”
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That was a wake-up call for me. I started keeping a meticulous record of our expenses. I downloaded receipts for everything—groceries, phone bills, rent, Uber, holidays, plane tickets—the works, all paid by me.
Yet, Peter argued that these were my choices, although he forgot the fishing trip he dearly wanted, which I also paid for without asking him for anything.
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Despite these revelations, Peters stance didnt soften. Last month, during a vacation, he only contributed about $200 towards our monthly expenses, claiming that since he wasn’t paid for most of the month, that was all he could offer.
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I didnt give him a hard time for this nor did I complain because I knew that he hadnt been paid for most of that month. However, he started working again yet Peter refused to give me anything beyond what he is currently responsible for paying.
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Once back at work, he still refused to help beyond the basics of rent and bills, emphasizing that as the woman of the house, cooking should be my job.
Exhausted, I suggested he might cook sometimes, or at least heat some ready meals. He retorted, asking what the point of getting married was if he had to cook.
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Last week, I dragged myself through the door after work. Ive been up since 5 a.m. and worked until 7 p.m. So, I barely step foot in the kitchen, and hes like, “Hey, hun. I picked up some food. You owe me 200 bucks. Just pop it in my wallet.”
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I said, “Excuse me? We both eat, dont we? Shouldnt we split that at least?” Peter doubled down in his response, saying, “Nope. Youre the wife. Cookings your gig. If youre not gonna cook, you gotta pay for the food I get.”
I almost hit the floor. But, I bit my tongue, thinking I had to teach him a lesson. So, the next day, when my husband asked me to go on a short trip with him to unwind, I devised my revenge.
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This was the turning point for me. Assuming I would pay as usual, his suggestion backfired spectacularly when I responded, “Dear, you’re the man of the house, so it’s YOUR GIG to 100% financially provide our vacations. So if you don’t pay, you don’t go anywhere.”
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That hit him hard. He realized his mistakes and acknowledged the imbalance in our relationship. Peter agreed to start cooking during the week and reassessed his views on our roles. This change was a significant step towards understanding and valuing the efforts and sacrifices we both make.
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Looking back, Peter and I went 50-50 in everything we did together. However, for one summer holiday trip, I paid $3,000 from my own pocket and I didnt ask him for a dime.
I even bought 90% of the clothes and shoes he wears. As for him, he only spent the rest of his money on fishing gear (which he already has) or some gadgets.
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Between the two of us, Im more responsible when it comes to finances whereas hes the opposite. This is why we manage our money separately, I dont trust Peter with financial responsibilities.
Moreover, before our agreement, I had suggested counseling and he laughed off the idea in my face. He told me that he didnt need anyone telling him what to do because he knew what he wanted.
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I know we still have a long way to go and Im also trying my best to meet him halfway in terms of house chores. Hopefully, moving forward, Peter will be more open to my suggestions to make our lives bearable. Im relieved Peter finally saw my perspective, even if it meant bruising his ego.
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In a similar story, a woman also earns more money than her husband and covers most of the couples bills. However, when the husband won a lot of money, he became a different person, sidelining his wife. Heres what transpired:
My Husband Said ‘My Win, My Money’ despite the Fact That I Pay All the Bills – Turned Pale Coming Home One Day
Emma had always believed that she and John were on the same page. While being responsible for all of their finances, she had to deprive herself of most of the things that she wanted for herself while he didnt contribute to anything.
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On top of that, she even supported him with his hobby of playing the lottery by chipping in weekly. One day, Johns luck struck as he won big.
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Little did she know that he would turn against her. Since Emma had always wanted to enroll in an acting course, but couldnt afford to, she asked him to pay for it with a quarter of his winnings.
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Instead, she ended up being humiliated by John who laughed off the request, stating that it was his win and that the money belonged to him alone.
She reminded him how she denied herself the things she desired to do or have because she was busy taking care of both of them financially and that he should also support her dream.
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But this fell on deaf ears as John continued to mock his wife, stating that it was her choice to pay for everything they had. He further said that if she couldnt understand that this win was his alone, then they werent on the same page at all.
Emma was left devastated and hurt. In the days that followed, she devised a plan and decided to turn the tables on John. One day, he left home to visit his brother and this was the perfect time to set the revenge in motion. Once he returned home, his face turned pale after seeing what she had done.
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